Sex Change - Male to Female

Thanksgiving Day in 1995 was the last time our family was to spend together. The season was full of surprises and I was on a path to becoming a part time Christian missionary, planning a summer event in 1996 (or so I told my family) to China. My two older half-brothers, having another dad, were never at peace with each other and this day was no different. However, recently, my oldest brother called me and told the reasons for his decision to have a sex change.

This news was a shocker because I had never known this side of my brother, I was 29 and he was 32. Growing up very different lives, all of us never knew each other well. Though I contribute the decision to taking too much acid when he was young, he has his proof of an additional chromosome: XXY syndrome is a condition in which human males have an extra X chromosome.  Though my brother had no external symptoms and was able to reproduce (having two children with women); his psychological mindset was greatly hindered by keeping this secret.

At least one study indicates that planned and timed support should be provided for young men with Klinefelter syndrome to ameliorate current poor psychosocial outcomes.

The lack of family knowledge, and our mother’s secret, added to my disbelief and confusion. On the three-hour ride to Thanksgiving dinner, I told my other brother the news. He was not surprised.

Sex changes do not change a person’s identity inside; they remain the same. I do not judge him or anyone for decisions they make when those decisions only impact themselves. However, this decision to have a sex change needed professional guidance, to which our family never sought. The evidence to his decision was clear view of new breasts…

I always thought of my brother as a hardheaded asshole, but now he is just my sister.

And so introduces the sex change of my oldest brother...XXY or XYY?

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Relationships are tough enough without chromosome differences. Sharing the truth and the ability to talk to family is important, but it is also important to be true to yourself. I do not have a good relationship with my sister, who was my oldest brother, because of her decision; our family issues stem from a life of disconnected impersonal interactions that were always one-sided. I was always trying to take care of my family as the mediator. I hold people accountable for their actions when they directly influence others in a negative manner.

Sometimes it is better to keep secrets and maintain relationships, when otherwise without proper concern of others lead us to behave selfishly.

I know about secrets… many people keep secrets to protect others from a truth which would destroy faith, trust, or security in many fashions. I am not talking about coming out of the closet with personal identity realizations because those are a normally unspoken acceptance in a way that no one can fully understand unless it is in your family. However, I am referring to the secrets held with confidence to maintain control for future disclosure in the right moment and circumstances.

It is with this understanding of a four-dimensional view point from which I write. Someday I will have an editor fully review all my work before the entirety of the eBook is made public. Please be patience with my writing because these rough excerpts are very difficult to produce considering the manner in which I think.

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